Healing Mental Obsession
Article by Sal Rachele
August 28, 2005
Mental obsession is a form of fear that can build
walls between yourself and others and can greatly reduce your enjoyment of
life and effectiveness in dealing with situations in front of you. The mind,
by obsessing, thinks it is taking care of you when in fact it is robbing
you of power and peace.
I used
to be a master at mental obsession until I realized the real cost of indulging
in this behavior. Mental obsession prevents your intuition and psychic abilities
from being fully utilized to genuinely help you foresee obstacles and events
that are important to be aware of. Mental obsession actually makes it harder
to accomplish tasks and goals, and leaves you feeling exhausted and unhappy.
Mental
obsession rarely assists in making you safer or more effective. Often, upon
hindsight, it is seen as a useless, energy-wasting activity that bears little
resemblance to actual dangers and pitfalls.
Like
everything else in Earthly life, there are two kinds of mental obsession –
inner and outer. Outer obsessions usually center around work performance,
finances, schedules, outcomes, personal appearance, etc. Inner obsessions
are concerned with how you project yourself to the world, fear of rejection,
fear of failure or success, need for approval from others, etc.
Ignoring
the mind’s rantings and ravings does not solve the problem of mental obsession,
nor does indulging or approving of its behavior. Instead, it is important
to become aware of the underlying factors and motivations behind the obsession.
What are you really afraid of? What false self-image or negative core belief
is generating the obsession?
Outer
obsessions can often be minimized by proper planning and understanding of
time and space. For example, many people become stressed out when traveling,
especially if it involves international destinations. Instead of mentally
obsessing about whether or not you will make your connections or have the
proper documents, set aside a time well prior to your travel to examine what
it is you truly need. Then tune in to your higher mind and intuition. You
can often foresee probable events that might affect your travel. Common sense
also plays a part. If you are changing planes and you have a choice of cities,
pick the ones least likely to have weather or volume delays. Allow enough,
but not too much time between flights. Put all your essentials in your carry-on
bags. Airlines rarely lose luggage, but if they do, clothes and books can
be replaced. Have your money and documents in a consistent, easy-to-reach
place and keep them on your person at all times. A lot of this is elementary,
but making sure you take care of this will help reduce mental obsession. When
possible, memorize schedules. Carry phone numbers and reservation numbers
with you. Arrange currency exchange in advance. Arrive at the airport early
and read a book or meditate. Carry plenty of water and eat before departure.
Remember that airline travel is one of the safest things you can do – thousands
of times safer than traveling by automobile (according to statistics).
Inner
obsessions are a bit more difficult to master, but realizing that they are
almost always based on a negative self-image is a good place to start. Where
are you judging yourself? Making a good impression for the new business contacts
may be important, but mentally obsessing over it is going to deplete your
energy and make it more likely that you will forget something important during
the presentation. How attached are you to a particular outcome? You can set
goals and visualize results without being emotionally attached to them. Do
you like yourself? Do you approve of how you are handling the situation? If
not, why? What are you telling yourself? Are you so afraid of being a schmuck
that you remain uptight and fidgety during the meeting instead of relaxing
and allowing your guests to feel at ease? More than likely you are prepared
for your presentation and have gone over it several times. So relax and allow
your higher self to be chairperson of the meeting. What is really important
about the event? How do you view yourself? Are you a child of God joyfully
participating in an Earthly ritual? Or does your life and happiness depend
on what your clients think of you? Do you NEED the business generated by
a successful meeting, or are you able to be at peace regardless of whether
or not you close the deal? Visualizing an outcome works best if you remain
clear, calm and centered during the process.
Breathing,
meditation, visualization, prayer, yoga, holistic bodywork and gentle exercise
can all help to quiet a restless mind. Watch your diet before, during and
after a stressful event. Allow time for relaxation. Get plenty of sleep.
Sleep deprivation can cause a sort of hysteria, or augmentation of stress,
where things become hyper-important. Learn to be flexible. Sometimes events
do not turn out as planned. What is really important? Do you live in an abundant
universe with plenty of opportunities, or is life over because the client
said “No?”
Sometimes
it is necessary to take baby steps when organizing and planning something.
Trying to do too much at once can generate mental obsession. Make a list
of what is most critical and focus on those tasks. If one item on a list
keeps popping into your mind repeatedly, handle it first even if it doesn’t
seem as important. Having a calm mind will make the rest of the tasks easier.
Do not put things off. Procrastination triggers obsession. Minimize the “what
ifs.” Most of them never come true. Use psychic and spiritual protection techniques,
especially when traveling. Invoke the power and presence of God to protect
you. Do this often, but do not obsess about it. Pay attention to the energy
of people around you. Do this dispassionately like a scientist studying an
experiment. Pay attention to your personal space. Close your aura when in
crowds. There are many techniques for doing this. You can open it up again
when doing a presentation or conversing among friends. Let go of judgment.
Let go of separation. A customs official is a human being wearing a uniform
and performing a job. He is not the enemy to be overcome. A rude passenger
on a plane is a troubled human being in need of healing. Define your boundaries
and then let it go. Use your protection techniques.
Appreciate
the beauty all around you. Remember, it’s all just soul experience. There
are really no winners and losers, only participants. The “worst that could
happen” rarely happens. Worry is completely useless. It’s a bad habit. Do
not indulge it. Gently but firmly turn the OFF button on your obsessive mind.
Fill yourself with the golden radiant light of your God Presence every time
“monkey mind” begins its rant. Let it know that Spirit is in control and
that it is a humble servant. It will be told what to do and when to do it.
You are in control because you are aligned with your higher self and God.
You are going with the flow and making decisions that are for your highest
and best soul growth, happiness and well-being. You are on your optimum path.
All is in Divine Perfection. It is so, and so it is. Amen.